- A man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings.
*A woman greatly appreciates Mr. Fix-It, as long as he doesn’t come out when she is upset.*
- A woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism.
*A man greatly appreciates the home-improvement committee, as long as it is requested.*
Man need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems, it’s not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own. She does not need to be fixed.
Woman need to remember that unsolicited advice or criticism - especially if he has made a mistake - make him feel unloved and controlled. He needs her acceptance more than her advice, in order to learn from his mistakes.
When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has a chance to blossom.